(Almost) Free at Last!

I’m now semi-retired.

Even though I feel like I’m in my thirties mentally, I feel like a dinosaur next to physicians that are my kids’ ages. (Aaron would probably say, “Yeah, a T. rex!”). After 36 years, delivering babies is like riding a bicycle, but I started riding that bike when obstetrics was a Schwinn 5-speed I bought in high school. Now that bike is made from exotic materials costing thousands of dollars and requires an engineering degree to operate, even though the destination hasn’t changed.

I was ambivalent about leaving hospital practice when I started writing this, but I’ve gotten used to the idea of maybe never delivering another baby. Letting go has been easier for me than it would be for those whose identities are inextricably tied to their professions. I’ve become increasingly skeptical about the direction health care has taken; I’m more than happy to pass the baton to the next generation and wish them luck. They’re going to need it.

However, I am not just sitting around watching Matlock or yelling at kids to get off my lawn. I’ve been doing health assessments for seniors for the past two weeks and it’s been a fine experience. If nothing else, I’ve gained an appreciation for seniors and insight into what is to come.

Fifty years ago, we didn’t see people in their eighties or nineties. The seniors I knew as a kid were grey, wrinkled and tired.  Most people, especially those who did manual labor their entire careers, retired at sixty-five and had a few good years before dropping dead from a massive heart attack or a stroke. I was shocked to discover LBJ was only 55 when he became President and died at 64, my current age.

But by 2020, the percentage of people over 65 will have doubled since 1950, from 8% to almost 17%.  Ten years ago, people 80 and over were the fastest growing population segment. More people are working well into their 70’s and 80s, often out of necessity but sometimes by choice.

So, I’ve been driving around the Heartland making house calls. I have a rolling case with the equipment I need: a scale; an automatic blood pressure cuff; an ophthalmoscope; a pulse oximeter; a reflex hammer and a penlight; gloves; a 10g monofilament diabetic neuropathy tester; and company paperwork.

The people I’ve seen so far have all been warm and welcoming. They seem genuinely happy to talk with me and are far more relaxed than they would be in the intimidating confines of a physician’s office or a hospital room. The evaluation takes about an hour, longer than the fifteen to twenty minutes allotted to primary care visits. Several have remarked “This is the most thorough exam I’ve ever had!” I can only see six to seven people in a day and no practice would be able to survive at that rate, so it’s a nice service to provide.

While I’ve seen a few people my age, most of them are mid-seventies to early 90s.  Despite chronic illnesses and the infirmities of age, they don’t complain. Yeah, the back hurts and getting around is tough, but any day one wakes up above ground is a good day.

One of my clients on the first day lived in an assisted living facility. I passed a group of women around a table in the hall on my way to his apartment. One of them noticed my white coat and asked in a loud whisper, “Is that a doctor?”  The gentleman was a 93 year old veteran who still drove his own car and liked to play games on his computer. He’d been retired for 27 years, lived by himself, and still had more energy than I do some days.

An 89-year-old man learned keyboards when he retired at 62 and now plays for community events. I asked him what kind of music: “Swing, country, jazz, blues…”  He pointed to his keyboard and microphone, sitting next to his treadmill. He gave me hope that I might be more than a mediocre piano player before I die.

A couple of the men were still running their own businesses. A man in his mid-70s needed a new computer monitor and snagged a 43” UHD TV for four hundred bucks just before I met with him. Another man, 80, had rental properties to check on later the afternoon I visited him. I called a few days later to make sure he’d gotten his blood pressure rechecked and he recognized my voice.

“My blood pressure was much better. Thanks for calling me!”

I saw a couple for my last visit of the day near the end of the second week:  A 99-year-old man and his 92-year-old wife, who both looked like they were in their seventies. They were still relatively active; they’d been waiting for better weather so they could start working in their garden.

The husband went first. I confirmed his identity, entered his medications into the record, and then started with a long list of standard health history questions, which includes asking about past alcohol use.

He became a little defensive and said, “I never drank that much. When you’re Italian, there’s always wine on the table.” 

Sensing his unease, I replied, “My late father-in-law, Mike, was from the South Side of Chicago. After the war, he and his buddies used to crash Italian wedding receptions because the food was great, and the women loved to dance.”

He brightened up and replied, “We used to get trash can lids and bang them together in the middle of the night. People would throw money at us to get us to go away. They never threw quarters, though, only nickels and pennies.”

The conversation became a little more somber when I talked about Mike’s war experience.

“Mike was a tail gunner in a B-17.”

“Was he in Italy? If he was in a B-17, he must have been in Italy. I was the crew chief on a P-38, that fighter with the machine guns in the nose. We flew in the Ploesti raid in 1944.” The memory angered him. “Someone ratted us out; the Germans were waiting there for us.”

I was surprised to talk with someone who knew of that campaign, but I shouldn’t have been since he and Mike were born the same year.

“Mike was on that raid, too! Their plane had been hit pretty badly and they were going down. He’d been injured and his harness was shot up, so the bombardier, David Kingsley, put his own chute on Mike, dragged him to the bomb bay doors and told him ‘Put your hand on the ripcord and pull it once you’ve cleared the doors.’ He went down with the plane and Mike spent three months in a Bulgarian P.O.W. camp.”

Before I left, he showed me a large frame on the dining room wall with pictures of him and his buddies standing in front of their plane. “You know, it’s sad. We can’t get any of the younger guys to join the VFW or the American Legion. I guess it’s not that important to them.”

I started my career bringing lives into the world. Ending it by working with people on the other end is rather fitting, I think, and just as rewarding.

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12 thoughts on “(Almost) Free at Last!

  1. Wendy Burt-Thomas

    Happy to hear you’re happy with this new group of patients. Still waiting for you to move to Colorado though!

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  2. Susan Heerema

    Very cool. It is the circle of life we all share. You’re a gift, and I’m so glad you can share your clinical learning and expertise as it should be.

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  3. Suzan L Corbett

    I think your new job fits you well.You have alot of empathy and a genuine interest in people. Enjoy this new adventure. Hope you will venture to Mi. so we can get together. Love to you and Peg.

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  4. barry slotky

    I loved reading this, your latest post, and was so pleased to realize again that there is indeed LAM (life after Memorial) for those of us fortunate enough to experience it.

    Reading about your home visits took me back to moonlighting days and the wonderful folks and their families I got to meet. As you noted, back then the people I examined were usually in their 40s and 50s, and it was their parents who were the “senior citizens” you’re now examining.

    Enjoy the folks you meet at your appointments and take pleasure in the gifts those fine people will continue to give you.

    Love to you and Peg.

    Barry

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  5. Deborah Martin-Gill

    Sounds like a good gig for you! Today I go to my first Assessment of a senior who is admitted to a post acute transitional care unit in Montcalm Co. Like you, I started with mother’s and babies and now I’m “working” during my retirement with Seniors! I love being retired but I like being a social worker on occasion. It gives me some pin money and I look forward to their stories. Have fun!

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  6. Marian Western

    Another wonderful post…I love it that you sound happy and are doing something that you enjoy! These people need you, and I can only imagine how rewarding this work must be. I’m sure that you’re a big hit with the patients, too! I look forward to more. So happy for you, Dave!

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  7. Eadie Harley

    David, so glad to hear that you are enjoying this new chapter in your life. As a RN I was able to change my area of specialty with little difficulty. It was probably the best part of becoming a nurse. I truly enjoyed each new position and the ongoing education required for each area was challenging and rewarding at the same time. It is so appropriate that your career began at the beginning of life and now you are providing care to the elderly. Very different, and very rewarding to still work as a Dr as you navigate the road to retirement.

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  8. Peter Scott Cameron

    Dave: this is a beautiful piece. So affirming and appreciative, and such strong recognition of the fullness of people and life. I was really moved by the mini-stories you related here.

    On a personal level, I can appreciate this too — am arriving at my own crossroads, having left full-time community mental health work and college teaching nine years ago now, then carrying on as a part-time adjunct…and now beginning to cut even that back.

    The cutting back is not because I can’t do it; it is more that I want to do that particular set of tasks less and less. And of course, there are annoying and unhelpful changes in higher education — more and more administrative and corporate-style supervision and measurement that could quickly turn me into a cranky old bastard. I don’t want that.

    And that is exactly what your post here points too — stepping away from, refusing to develop old bastard disorder, and instead moving toward the affirming, toward possibility, toward love of life.

    Thanks, PSC

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